With Christmas season and the New Year’s looming, love is definitely in the air.  Given the current high divorce rates (about 50 percent) in America, it’s clear that many people are getting married for the wrong reasons.  Making the decision to spend the rest of your life with someone is no doubt one of the biggest decisions you’ll ever make.

Whether you’re making the decision to get married after a few years of dating or after the first couple dates, having these answers could save you time, heart ache and resources spent on divorce.  According to the book, 101 Questions to ask before you get engaged by H.Norman Wright, these are some of the questions you must know the answers to if you want to get married.

  • What do you envision in the future for this relationship?

You have to know the reason your partner wants to be in the relationship to begin with to make sure the interest of both parties is aligned.  You can’t be blinded by simply “I love you”.

  • What is your greatest concern about being married?

Having fear or concerns about being married is normal.  Better to handle and come up with solutions for them beforehand.

  • How would you share your frustrations with me when issues come up?

Even with healthy relationships having occasional problems, chances are the same will happen to you when the honeymoon phase ends.  Having a plan on how to deal with problems is vital to the success of the relationship.

  • What are the “must haves” and “must not haves” you look for in a person you may want to spend your life with?

Whether you’re comfortable with making a shopping list or not, it’s good to have a few non-negotiable qualities on what you want in a partner.  If they are being honest, their answers will let you know whether you’re the right person for them as well.  Better to find out sooner than later and save time.

  • What passions have an impact in your life and in what way?

You don’t need to have the same tastes when it comes to television programs for example.  But its good have some similar interests in some things and know each other’s tastes.  Lot of future dinner conversations will revolve around these topics.  Or be prepared to be bored out of your mind if neither one of you have any interests in what each other have to talk about.

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